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Spilling the Sweet Tea with Carlena Davis

Miesha Nicole Season 1 Episode 3

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Carlena Davis is a Mom and a Food Blogger born in Kinston, NC and now living in the Washington, DC area. She started her Food Blog, Spilling the Sweet Tea in July of 2017. As a Southern girl and a busy mom, she wanted to “Spill the Sweet Tea” on how to make great southern dishes but also share some quick 30 minute meals for busy working moms. 

Inspired by her mom and the bond they share over making homemade jams and preserves, Carlena created her own cookbook which features her homemade jam. She is grateful to her mom who took the time to show her how to make preserves and shaped her into the jam maker and cook that she is today.   

She wanted to showcase the various ways that jam and preserves could be used in different dishes and provide alternatives to the traditional piece of toast! There are so many savory dishes that can be complimented by the sweetness of homemade jam and even cocktails, which can be so refreshing when shaken with ice, alcohol and a few tablespoons of jam. 

Carlena is also a children’s book author. She released her children’s book titled “The ABC’s of Cooking in Maya’s World in August of 2021. Starting with A and ending with Z, this beautifully illustrated book empowers kids in the kitchen and is the perfect way to introduce kids ages 4 and up to the joy of cooking. From the technique of frying and grilling, to the kitchen tools of a ladle and a whisk, to cooking techniques such as infusing and velveting, children learn all about the ABC’s of Cooking. 

When Carlena isn’t working on her food blog, she can be found spending time with her husband Kevin and daughter Maya. She also enjoys traveling, honing her food photography skills and advocating for Alzheimer’s Awareness. 

For more information, visit: 

www.spillingthesweettea.com and www.welcome2mayasworld.com 

 IG @spilling_the_sweet_tea and @welcome2mayasworld 

TikTok @spilling_the_sweet_tea 


SPEAKER_00

Today on the show we have the Queen behind the Skilling of Sweet Sweet brand, Carlina Davis. Carlina is a food blogger, author, creator, and entrepreneur. Inspired by her late mom, she wanted the skills of sweet seats on how to make seven dishes off her blog. This desire has turned into a basic cookbook for adults and a children's book that is in over 12 forms of papers. And she is here to fill the sweet seats with the Girl Yes community. Good morning, Carlina. Thank you so much for being on Girl Yes Podcast, where we inspire, motivate, and empower women to be their best authentic selves. I am so happy and excited that you said yes to being on the podcast to share who you are with the world because you are amazing to me and I just want to share that with the world. So good morning, Carlina.

SPEAKER_01

Good morning, my Isha. Thank you so much for having me. I'm so excited to join you this morning. Thank you. Excited about the opportunity.

SPEAKER_00

So, Carlina, tell me, who was Carlina, uh like your seven, eight-year-old self, like second grade? Who were you? And who did you think you were gonna be in this world when you grew up?

SPEAKER_01

Oh gosh, second grade Carlina, she probably was thinking she was gonna be a doctor or something like that. Like um the twists and turns of my life and has brought me to the point I am at today. So it's amazing what you think is gonna happen in your life. Totally, God has another plan, you know. Yeah, what he wants you to do.

SPEAKER_00

Oh, yeah. Teacher, doctor, boys want to be a fireman, you know, things we never really think outside of that box that was kind of presented to us, right?

SPEAKER_01

Right, exactly, exactly.

SPEAKER_00

But I think you had a unique perspective, and you said that your parents owned a small business.

SPEAKER_01

Yeah, I grew up in a small business. Um, both my parents my parents were entrepreneurs, so I um got the opportunity to watch them build a brand over. Gosh, my dad started the funeral home in 1966.

SPEAKER_00

Wow.

SPEAKER_01

And my mother joined him in the business. She joined him in the business. My mother was a teacher prior to that. So, you know, I it's one of those things where, you know, um great customer service, building rapport, and you know, being compassionate and empathetic is something I learned, you know, growing up in a business such as a funeral, the funeral home industry, you know. And um, I I was, you know, I didn't have babysitters on Saturdays and Sundays. I'm from North Carolina, so typical funerals in North Carolina is on a Saturday or a Sunday. So I was at, I was helping my parents during that time, carrying flowers. I was, you know, doing all types of things, you know, to help them when I was growing up. So it gave me a unique perspective on um, you know, building a brand and wanting to leave a legacy. And honestly, it wasn't something I thought I was gonna do up until the pandemic.

SPEAKER_00

What happened during the pandemic for you to start your business?

SPEAKER_01

It was just a total mind shift. I've always worked for someone, right? And I still do, I still have a full-time job. Um, but during the pandemic, uh, I have always been a food blogger. Well, not always, 2017 I became a food blogger. And I was literally just sharing pictures and recipes on my website just as a hobby. I've always loved to cook, it's something I always love to do. And it wasn't until maybe like March or April of 2020 where I discovered TikTok. And I got on TikTok. My step, my bonus daughter came to live with us because her university shut down because of COVID. And I was like, how are these people changing clothes so fast? Like I was just infatuated with the app itself, and she showed me how to do it. So she helped me and my daughter do like our first TikTok, which had nothing to do with food. Um, and after she showed me how to use it, I was like, I could probably show people how to make food. And although I'm a salesperson, I'm very outgoing, like, you know, I can build rapport with, you know, that's just part of being a salesperson. I just never saw myself recording videos and talking to the camera and things like that. My first TikTok showing people how to make food, I did not have my face on camera. It was like a one-pot chicken parm pasta thing. And I said, you know what, I'm gonna show my face and you know, teach people how to make hibachi. I think that's what it was, hibachi at home. And I started having people follow me and like my content and the community that I have built on TikTok and the encouragement from people I do not know that just want to see me keep going. Honestly, it I don't want to cry. It literally pushed me to say, you know what, maybe this is something I need to pursue as a business. So I turned spilling the sweet tea, the blog, into an LLC in the summer of 2020. And along around that time is when I started making the jam and um uh you know, wanting to build a jam brand. So it's honestly something I did not expect. My husband is my biggest cheerleader. He's the one that pushed me to do this pop-up shop, and that is what kind of like um, you know, fueled the the jam to be shipped um across the country because I had a pop-up shop at the end of my driveway in August of 2020. I just put it on Facebook and was like, hey, I'm selling jam, cookies, and cupcakes, you know, come by if you want to buy some. And I sold out that day. My mom showed me how to make preserves when I was a kid. We used to make, I used to shut corn, I used to share butter beans, child, I used to help my mother put up peach preserves. She used to can pickles, care preserves. Um, I'm a country girl. And she she used to make preserves when I was a kid. When I moved into my house in 2017, I had a housewoman party and I gave people my peach preserves as a thank you gift for coming to my housewoman party. That was the last time I made jam, which is which was 2017, and before that was with my mother. I was bored, in the house bored, and saw that the peach truck was coming through my city, and I went and got some peaches. I told my husband, I'm like, I want to mix peach preserves. And I ended up making probably 30 jars. And I have, I'm a you know, a household of three. And he was like, Carlina, they were so good. I love making homemade biscuits. Like I grew up with homemade biscuits and peach preserves, like or pear preserves. And he was like, You should sell them. I'm like, anybody gonna want my jam, you know, like come on, you got all of these jam brands that you can just get from the grocery store. He was like, You shouldn't really think about doing it. And that's exactly how it came to be. I was like, well, I can't just sell peach. And then I came up with raspberry, and those are the two flavors that I had at the pop-up shop were peach and raspberry. And then I threw some cookies and some cupcakes on the table too, like just to kind of make it more of like a sweet type of pop-up shop. Uh-huh. And I was shocked that people were inboxing me to say, Can you ship me some? And I'm like, um, let me figure it out. I figured it out. And just the steps that have taken me to where I am today, it's just it blows my mind. It really does. It blows my mind.

SPEAKER_00

I I love that you say you figured it out. I think as moms, um, entrepreneurs, you know, sometimes you just figure it out. And you, it's so it was so unexpected for you, but you're like, you know what? You took you saw the opportunity, you didn't want to let people down. You're like, you know what, let me just try this. And um I just love that story. You just like, look, I made too many. My husband's like, you know, sell them, this, this, you know, and and look, I'm just so excited to see um, because I have been following you for probably that long on TikTok. And I am it's so funny because I'm one of those TikTok people that do not create. Like, if I make something it's saved in private and I might text it to my family, right? Um, I just really enjoy um just watching people like yourself just go from you know, from one place and just could seeing your continuous growth over time in such a short period of time, to be honest with you. Um it just amazes me. Um, tell our uh listeners about your other books that you have out.

SPEAKER_01

Yeah, so with the jam, I got the idea. Probably, I want to say it was January 2021. I got the idea to write a cookbook, a short cookbook just to showcase how people can use jam in various ways outside of a piece of toast, right? Most people just put, you know, jam and preserves on like toast or biscuits or something like that. But there are so many more great ways you can use jam. Like you can shake it into a cocktail, you can make sauces, vinaigrette, I mean, um, so many different ways. So I got the idea to write this cookbook and I self-published it. And it's so many things I learned about self-publishing in this whole process because I had never written a book in my entire life. Yeah. Um, but you know, God put the people and the things and resources in place for me to be able to do it. I wanted to launch it by my birthday. So I didn't tell anybody I was writing a book. It's not my close friends knew. Um, and I was like, I I didn't even promote it or anything like that, you know, to say this is coming. I literally on my birthday to say this is my birthday gift to myself to to put out something that I created. Um, and so many people supported my cookbook. It was on, it was numbered, it got us number 13, I believe, on Amazon under appetizer cooking.

SPEAKER_00

Yeah, so I have my copy. Um and full disclosure, I was like, she put the jam in the drinks and the cocktails. Oh, I need that book. Yes, yes.

SPEAKER_01

That peach cobbler cocktail is so good. I make it all the time when people come over. I love the raspberry bourbon one. I made you that one later today. It's so good, and it's so many different I love making vinaigrette. Raspberry vinaigrette is one of my favorite salad salads. If you have a little bit of that jam left in the jar, heat it up in the microwave, add olive oil, a little bit of Dijon mustard, salt and pepper, and you got vinaigrette. You might have to leave your house. Right.

SPEAKER_00

Like you, girl, you inspire me to just I like so I get in my moods, right? Sometimes I like to cook, and then sometimes I'm like, I can go all week and like I just don't feel like it, right? Yeah, I'm inspired by people like you with like new and just like totally kind of like out the box sometimes recipes for me. Like I said, putting the jam in the cocktail and um even oh I loved when you made um the bread out of the can and I love the story behind that. Oh yeah, do you mind? Can you share that as well? That was such a beautiful story.

SPEAKER_01

Yeah, um, so uh one of the one of our staff members, I'll say I grew up in a feeder home. Right. And um for 19 years, I don't want to talk problems wrong. Um she was our secretary for our feeder home. And um every Christmas she would make sweet potato bread. And she was, I think when she got it, when she we lost her, she was 90. So she's old school southern lady, and she made her sweet potato bread in coffee cans. So they had these beautiful coffee can shapes, and she would give them to uh everybody, the staff members every year. My daddy loved her sweet potato bread, like loved it. We always have it with a cup of coffee, looked forward to it every single Christmas. And we lost her to COVID in um February of 2021. And I wanted to pay homage to her because she was such a big part of our family business. She was a dear friend of my mom's, a dear friend of our family. And I recreated her sweet potato bread. She never gave me the recipe. I just knew she baked it in a coffee can because when I would go to her house, she'd have all the coffee cans lined up. So just based off of the taste of her sweet potato bread, I knew she finally chopped up pecans um in it. I just came up with a recipe um that I felt was similar to hers. So, you know, it was just my way to pay homage to her because she was just such a gem and such a um, you know, she meant so much to to my family.

SPEAKER_00

I could I could see that in your video, how much she meant to you and your family. And um I I appreciate also um how much you pay homage to those who influence you so much, you know, your mom and even your dad with the what is it, Pepsi and the peanuts and the Pepsi and the peanuts.

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SPEAKER_01

My mother was a great cooker, but my daddy could cook too. I mean all the men can cook. My daddy could cook, like he made the best waffles. I mean, um, so he was the breakfast one. Like he was the one that made breakfast for us before school. My mother would cook dinner and she would cook breakfast on the weekends, um, and the Sunday dinners and stuff like that. But my father could really cook too. And um, yeah, I mean, I tell people all the time there would be no sweet pea spill if it wasn't for my mother. She got me in that kitchen and she showed me how to make certain things, you know, and I could not do any of this stuff if she had not shown me, taking the time to show me. So I'm I'm grateful for her.

SPEAKER_00

Right. And I love how you're passing that down to Maya.

SPEAKER_01

Yeah. That's so important to me that I that I teach her, you know, um, a lot of the dishes that my mother taught me. And I teach her the way my mother taught me. So the sweet potato, the greatest sweet potato pudding video, right, that I posted probably around Thanksgiving time. Lord, people wanted me to boil potatoes. They wanted me to boil it. Well, they were giving you a hard time. They were giving me a hard time. I'm like, no, I never saw my mother make it outside of rating them, you know, raw. Like you don't have to, you don't match, if you mash them, you have like a sweet potato souffle or casserole, that's not the dish. So it's just, you know, it's funny to me, like how people, you know, tell you how to make something. I'm like, no, I want to make it the way my mother made it. It's not an easy dish to make because you do have to grade, you know, a lot of those sweet potatoes. It takes time. Um, but it but you make memories when you cook like that. Right. Now, I'm I I know people come to me all the time, like, oh, I don't have time to do stuff like that. Maybe I'm posting a recipe today with canned biscuits, making donuts with canned biscuits. So it's not like I'm sitting here making biscuits from scratch every single time. Right. I have a whole part of my blog which is about 30-minute meals for busy parents. Like it's southern recipes, plus trying to give people ideas on how to make quick meals. So, you know, but for certain things, especially for certain times of the year, I'm gonna always do it the Shirley May way. Every single time.

SPEAKER_00

Yeah. Does every sh every uh Southern woman middle name is May? That was my grandmother's middle name. Everybody's calling May Jean. Reta May. So yeah, so I um I grew up in Connecticut, but my family is from Georgia. My mom's side of the family, let me say that, is from Georgia. My dad's side is from Jamaica. Okay, lovely when you were putting that action in salt fish. I said, Okay, Carlina look at that.

SPEAKER_01

Um, I'm trying to do more in 2022, making more um Jamaican dishes and just different dishes from around the world, you know? Yeah. Um, so I'm working on that. But yes, uh, I've done brown stuff and I've done well, he showed me how to make his Akean salt fish. And um, I may try to do like Escobitch for his birthday, which is kind of cool. Girl, that's delicious. There it goes. He loves red snapper.

SPEAKER_00

Yeah, you'll have to make it with some fried dumplings. That'd be good.

SPEAKER_01

I've never I've never done that, but I feel like I can because it reminds me of a biscuit. Yeah. So I feel like I can I can nail it, but I just have never made it before. But that's a great idea to to make the fried dumplings with the with the fish.

SPEAKER_00

Yeah, it's delicious. So yeah. Um, now see, growing up, my mother um didn't necessarily like say, oh, come here, let me show you how to do this. I just remember, I learned by watching sometimes. So it's not like doing it in the moment, like I have to watch you kind of do it first. Um, and I just remember watching her do a lot of stuff, and people ask me now, well, like, how do you know how to cook? Well, I watched my mother make, you know, like collard greens and cornbread and some of those southern dishes. And then I would watch my grandmother on my father's side make the octel and the brown stew chicken and the escavage and all that kind of stuff. So um that's kind of like where I or how I learned, and I just remember though, I do have that memory, which I which is why I appreciate the grating of the sweet potatoes because I have that memory of my mother would sometimes spread out newspaper on the floor, and she would sit me on the floor to roll up and cut up collard greens or just like cut up onions or like the green beans, like that kind of thing. But I just remember her putting the newspaper on the floor and like I would sit there, and I just thought I was like the biggest girl doing the most awesome thing, and you know, just spending time with my mother. And it wasn't like, oh, you have to come in here and do this, or but I just appreciate that time and those memories.

SPEAKER_01

So yes, yeah, it was the same way for me. Yeah, it was the same way for me. I mean, uh that was our bonding time though, is is getting in the kitchen. And then, like I said, I grew up in a small business. So once I got to like, you know, sixth, seventh grade, and I was the, you know, coming home after school, my mother would say, Um, something better be in this oven by the time I can't home, Miss Ritter home. And that kind of propelled me to start making things on my own based on what I saw her. Like I was cooking whole chickens at like 12. I I still remember it to this day. You couldn't tell me nothing. I would bake a whole chicken and my marinade would be Italian dressing. You better go. You better go. I thought I was doing it. But that was that was like, you know, kind of how I started doing cooking on my own outside of watching her cook, was because they would close the business around 5, 5:30. And then I would get out of school at 2:45, 3 o'clock. So I would start, I would start dinner, you know. So that's kind of how I kind of, you know, um started cooking on my own.

SPEAKER_00

Well, that is awesome. Yeah. I I don't think I started cooking on my own until I was older.

SPEAKER_01

But that was that was like, you know, kind of how I started doing cooking on my own outside of watching her cook was because they would close the business around 5, 5 30. And then I would get out of school at 2 45, 3 o'clock. So I would start, I would start dinner, you know. So that's kind of how I kind of, you know, um started cooking on my own.

SPEAKER_00

Well, that is awesome. Yeah. I I don't think I started cooking on my own until I was older. I I love my mom, but that's The kitchen. Like, yeah. She just she moved so fast. It was like if even if she told you to do something, if you didn't get it, like start doing it in two minutes, she was like, Don't worry about it. I already started. Yeah, yeah, my mother was the same way. So, you know, but again, I did learn from watching her. Um, and just the taste, like just knowing like, okay, I think there's some vinegar in here, whatever. Um, but yeah, so I I I do appreciate um, I appreciate having that mix too of like having the even though I was raised in Connecticut, but having that southern, you know, roots attachment, and then also the Jamaican, and so so I try sometimes, and yeah, I'm not a Carlina, but I try.

SPEAKER_01

I feel mine's gonna grow up that way too, right? Because you know, my husband makes Jamaican dishes, not a lot, but you know, she she's Jamaican and North Carolinian. So my husband is Cuban and Jamaican. So his mother grew up in Jamaica, I believe, but she was born in Cuba. Okay. Uh-huh. So she had that thick Jamaican accent, but she her roots were in Cuban. Cuban, yeah, yeah. So that's interesting.

SPEAKER_00

Awesome, yeah. Um, so what's next for Carlina?

SPEAKER_01

Wow, so my goal is to take the jam brand to the next level. That's what I'm working on real, and that's what I'm working on really hard right now and been working on for months. So um, that is what I'm looking to do. I want to write a southern cookbook. It's on my vision board to do um, I have the name, I obviously have the content. It's just the time. Yeah, and also the photos. I am trying to work on my food photography skills. A lot of the stuff that I make, like, you know, I don't just make it just to post it, right? Like normally I'm making it to eat it. Um, because I don't do this full time. There's so many people this um that I follow and I'm connected with, they do it full time, right? And they can just make dishes because they're making content. And most of the time when I cook is because I'm just making dinner or you know, uh we we're football families, so like today and tomorrow we'll be making appetizers for the games and stuff like that. So I'm impatient and I'm hungry. So a lot of time, by the time I make the food, you know, it's cold. By the time you take a bazillion pictures, I'm trying to work on that. But yeah, you know, that's a little bit of an obstacle, is you know, is that part. You know, I probably feel like I need a food stylist to do a lot of the pictures and stuff like that. Yeah. That's that takes it to a whole nother level because you gotta cook it and have somebody come and take the photos of the food. But that is a goal, is to do a a southern style cookbook and just continue to, you know, promote the children's book and the the cookbook. So and that's I mean, I was when I thought about make writing this children's book last year, I never thought like it would be in bars and all. Right. Never in my wildest dreams.

SPEAKER_00

When I saw that, I was like, look at Colina, you better go, girl.

SPEAKER_01

It's like literally, like I'm I it is and it's literally the inspiration I see on social media, right? I saw somebody that I follow um um on um Instagram who said they just literally went into Barnes and Noble and asked if they supported local authors. And they said, Yeah, we'll order your book and have it on the shelves. And I was like, Isn't that easy?

SPEAKER_00

Wow.

SPEAKER_01

You know, I'm a salesperson. So that's exactly what I did. I went to the one right here in my home in in Bowie where I'm where I live and talked to the store manager. I talked to this man for about 30 minutes. He was so nice, he was from like Baltimore, but he loves southern food, and we just talked about restaurants and food and you know stuff like that. He ordered the book on the spot. And I have literally called all the Barnes Nobles in the Washington, DC area, and they have agreed to carry the book in their locations. That is so amazing.

SPEAKER_00

Um, congratulations!

SPEAKER_01

Thank you. I think it's in it's in um two libraries, it's in I think 12 Barnes and Noble locations in Virginia, Maryland, and then in my home home state or North Carolina. So it's in Greenville, North Carolina. So yeah, I mean, I would love to do book signings because of COVID. They're Barnes and Noble right now is not doing book signings, like they were gonna bring it back, and you know, Marion had to come show his you know face and so I haven't done anything like that, but you know, just continuing to support, I mean, just continue to you know post about the book on Instagram and things like that. And Maya loves like, you know, being involved because she's the main character of the book, and she gave a lot of input on what her character looked like, and you know, um the cover page and in and everything. She's the one who came up with AS for April, literally in a day. We wrote that book as a family. Wow. Great idea to do a children's book because I teach her all the time, like Mike, this is a WISC, and this is what you use a whisk for, and I'm showing her how to use it. And then I went on Amazon and I just Googled to see if there was like a children's book out there that taught kids about cooking techniques and kitchen tools, um, primarily with a black main character. And I didn't see one. Yeah. You know, I really feel like cooking is a life skill. I feel like that's something kids should definitely know like the basics of you know, fried egg, how to make spaghetti, anything like that. Um, and that's what inspired me to write the book. It's like I want to share what I'm teaching her with other kids, you know, and um that's kind of how it came to be.

SPEAKER_00

And that cookbook is called ABCs of cooking in Maya's World. Just for everybody who's listening, run out. If you are in the area, DC area, go get it at Barnes Nobles. If not, you can get it on Amazon, correct?

SPEAKER_01

Yep, you can or you can get it from welcome to Maya'sworld.com. So I try to encourage people to buy it from my website because you know, Amazon won't they can they could, but it is on Amazon, it's on barnesandoble.com, target.com, and booksamaging.com. But you know, when you buy it directly from our website, we sign it for you and you know, send it out in our Maya's World packaging, and you get stickers, and also there's a coloring book as well that you can buy um in addition to the the children's book.

SPEAKER_00

Awesome. Oh, Carlina, I have enjoyed my time talking to you, the blogger, author, creator, monpreneur. Like I said, I've been following you on TikTok and just encouraging, you know. I I'm one of those I I try to only leave positive comments. Um, you know. God bless you. Because guess what? I don't create. So who am I to sit there and be like, you should do this or you should do that? No. I'm like, you know what, y'all go because it takes a lot of courage to do that. Is one thing for close out? What is one thing that you would say to other um women of color, creators who are just you know, taking that um courageous leap of faith and um to just kind of put yourself out there, what would you say to them um just to encourage them?

SPEAKER_01

Just to can just be themselves and keep going. You know, like I experienced that with that particular video a year and a half ago, but when it resurfaced like that, it kind of just got up under my skin. But just keep going, delete, block, you know, block it out because there are so many more people that appreciate what you're doing and are continue to encourage you to keep going more than people that are being negative, right? I think sometimes when people see somebody doing something, they may be like on the low, wish they could do it. So they just rather be negative instead of you know taking the time to do it themselves, you know, which is unfortunate. But you know, I would just say keep going because you would be surprised, like where you land if you just continue to believe in yourself and um you know, continue to follow the path that God is laying out. I feel like God is laying out a path for everybody, you know, and just continue to walk in that, you know. That's what I would say. Don't don't give up, don't let the haters, you know, mess with you to the point where you give up.

SPEAKER_00

I just want to say thank you again for coming on um and just inspiring and motivating and empowering women to just live their best authentic lives and to just lean into things that you know sort of fall into place for you, just continue to thrive and continue to grow. Um, I'm excited to see um, you know, your continued growth. Um tell us where we can find you.

SPEAKER_01

Um, so you can find me on Instagram, filling the sweet tea. Um I'm on Instagram, I'm on TikTok, Facebook, YouTube. That's my another goal that's to do more YouTube content. Um and my website, filling the sweet tea.com for the recipes, as well as welcome to the number two, my isworld.com for the children's world.